Writing My Way Through Life's Adventures.
I never dreamed of being a mother. That is to say that I didn’t grow up feeding baby dolls and changing fake diapers. I didn’t play at being a mom and as I got older it wasn’t something that I thought about very often. It wasn’t until I met my now husband that I began …
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Without knowing it I think I began to dip my toe into body positivity in high school. Though I was painfully insecure about myself and my own body following years of bullying in Catholic grammar school, I was always encouraging of others. One girl I was friends with was squeezing herself into size 8 jeans …
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Goals. Everyone needs them. They empower us, motivate us, and help us to improve as individuals. Long term, short term, a daily to do list, every notch on those mental or paper logs is a wish to better ourselves in some way. Goals seem so cut and dry. You set one and either succeed or …
Recently I watched a skin crawlingly uncomfortable yet amazing indie film called Ingrid Goes West starring Aubrey Plaza and Elizabeth Olsen. Plaza’s Ingrid is a lonely young woman most likely suffering from some sort of mental illness or break following the death of her mother. She becomes obsessed with Olsen’s Insta-famous Taylor who seemingly lives …
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I feel like I often hear my friends and other people my age (thirtysomethings) talk about wanting to disconnect. “I just want to delete my Facebook…but it makes it so easy to keep in touch.” “I just need to take a little social media break.” Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, it’s all become so ever-present in …
Grief. Grief is sneaky, like a wave. It ebbs away and for a period of time, distracted by work, life, whatever it may be, you forget that you’ve lost something precious. And then it comes rushing back. It always does. Sometimes it’s shallow, lightly splashing around your ankles – a light malaise of sadness. Other …
It’s not surprising to look back at some of our favorite TV shows and find that not all of their jokes and plot lines have aged gracefully. Friends, for example, has inspired many a think piece on the running jokes about Fat Monica or Ross’ inability to accept a male nanny as his child’s caregiver. …
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Brendan Ruppenthal was one of my best friends. He was also my unrequited high school crush. I bring this messy, embarrassing chapter in my life up only because it speaks so directly to the kind of person Brendan was. He, our friend Brian, and I were nearly inseparable in high school, participating in theater and …
Somewhere along the way I turned into a bit of a yo-yoer where my weight is concerned. It’s always been super gradual either way but it’s gone up and down about 40-50lbs nonetheless. After getting married three years ago it’s gradually gone back up until I recently decided that it was time to get my …
I have a love/fear relationship with alcohol. Both of those things, in writing, sound…well, not promising. Growing up, I don’t remember my parents ever sitting me down and talking to me about my father’s alcoholism but it was not something that was ever hidden. It was just a fact plain and simple. He’d given up …
Lola Writes the Wave 